Expectations

I know this sounds funny, but i have been thinking about the idea ofexpectations....and expectations in relationships. The funny part isWHY I have been thinking about it. Yes, I am one of the suckers thatwatch and get soaked up into the reality show The Bachelor. You haveJake, this cute, "nice guy" pilot. He always said the nice guys neverget the girl. Now he is juggling several girls. Real moral, i know.There is one girl on the show I have grown to really like and hopeJake picks her. Tinley. She is super sweet, cute and seemingly is the"nice girl." Perfect match in my eyes! But, we shall see.An episode or two ago they were on a date. You see, for those of youwho don't watch the show and don't know, Tinley is recently divorced.I believe even within the past year. She and Jake were eating dinner"getting to know each other" and Tinley asked Jake this question. Whatexpectations do you have for a wife? He didn't answer right away soshe continued, and this is a paraphrase mind you. Because we neverwant to talk about them but expectations DO exist in relationships.It is when we don't discuss those expectations that we have someproblems in our relationships that are completely unnecessary. Again,that is a paraphrase and is sort of my take on what she said.What do we expect? Do we expect out of our significant other, friends,or family things that we ourselves wouldn't/couldn't live up to? Idon't think expectations are bad and I agree with Tinley in that whenwe have them, we need to share them to some degree. No, don't tellyour significant other i expect flowers on these certain days or else! I don't mean that. However, don't get mad if that expectation isn'tlived up to. Things of that nature are more meaningful when the ideacomes from the giver of the gift.I am talking about deeper things. I actually just wrote a paragraphand then deleted it. In this paragraph I gave monitary examples ofwhat I mean. I think you know what I mean. I don't want to put thingsin your mind that aren't necessary. I know what I expect. Significanothers, friends and family who love me and let me love them back. Whoare honest with me and allow the same freedom for me. Who trust meand allow me to trust them. And these I mentioned are things thatmost people know without speaking them, but still they are important.The list goes on and on.I don't know. You may not think it that important of a thing to talkabout, but ever since I heard it put the way it was, I haven't stoppedthinking about it.Ah, I dont' know. Just something for you to think about I guess!

pondering thoughts on snow days

So glad I had today off. However "enjoying" the snow alone, isn't as enjoyable as you might think! ha! I have enjoyed the down time I got today. I baked cookies. Sugar cookies to be exact. They are pretty good, but I guess I am not the best cook because they are a little hard now! lol ah, oh well. I also took a nice long, hot bath. I can't tell you the last time I did that! It was awesome! (idea thanks to my sis!) For dinner I also cooked. What did I have? ....PANCAKES!! and eggs. Eggs were really good too! almost liked them more than the pancakes!

I also did some pondering. However this pondering was overlapped from the week. I had an acquaintance/friend die this week. His name was Chris. He suffered from Cystic Fibrosis. I think that I am the only one that I know that has never heard of this before. I didn't know what it was and certainly didn't know Chris had to deal with this. So, when I need to know something where do I go? Google! I learned all about CF. It is such an interesting disease. Anyone with this disease, if they make it to adulthood they will not live past 35 or so.

Death is just so hard to process sometimes. It is like a two-fold thought when talking about Christians. If the person that died is a Christian, you know they are in a much better place than where I am, but it is still sad to lose the relationship you have had with that person. So, you want to be happy because they are in a better place, but you are sad they aren't with you anymore. I have had all my grandparents to pass away and that was really sad each time I dealt with it. But it is different when you are talking about someone dieing that is around your age. Someone you had fun memories with. Someone that when you think of them, they make you smile. Now, Chris and I weren't good friends by any means, and with the exception of once a few months ago I hadn't interacted with him in years, but it is still weird. I can't think of another word but weird to describe the feeling of someone you know, your age-ish dies.

Don't get me wrong, home alone watching the snow fall, I didn't think of death all day, and honestly I have been wanting to blog about this all week, and today was the first time i have had free to sit and type!

On the flip side I have a precious friend just itching to give birth. She really thought it was going to happen this past Monday, yet Josiah decided to stay in mommy's tummy a bit longer. She still hasn't "popped" as the saying goes, but when she does, that precious baby is entering the world into a God-fearing family that I am proud to call my friends. I pray he comes to know the Lord as his parents have and turn around and tell everyone around him the glories of God. I can't wait for Meg and John to welcome Josiah into their family. God has blessed them with 3 great kids and he will be no different.

God breathes life into us and God calls us home to Him. So great to know God is in control of everything. He is my comfort and my first love. He will never leave nor forsake you. Don't ever forget that.....